I cannot count the number of times I have asked individuals, “Do you have a will?” and received
a negative answer. Many times the reason is “I don’t have anything.” or “My oldest will take care
of everything.” These are the 2 reasons I hear most often and the weakest reasons I hear.
The reality of this, is folks do not understand the process the state probate court follows when a
person dies without a will. And the brutal reality is, for that person it will not be a problem
because they will be dead. Having a will is a display of affection and love for the family that is
left behind. It takes the weight of the world off their shoulders.
In my opinion there are 4 documents that everyone needs to have regardless of their situation.
2. Living Will
3. Durable Power of Attorney
4. Where’s my Stuff Document
The following is a true series of events without the documents listed above.
A young lady died very unexpectedly in her Georga home in 2010. She was divorced, did not
have any children and did not have a will. However, she did have a mother and father (divorced)
and two adult siblings. She also had a job, health insurance, ownership of a house, dog, vehicle,
vehicle insurance, bank accounts, life insurance policy, retirement account, clothing, furniture,
cell phone, cable TV, mortgage, and the list goes on.
The father was the first to get notification of her death. After notifying all the family members, the
next call was to an attorney in Texas, his home state, to determine what needed to be done. He
was referred to an attorney in Georgia because that was the state’s laws that needed to be
The Georgia attorney stated that because there was no will the Georgia Probate Court would
have the responsibility of her estate. The attorney then informed the father that if someone
would agree to be the Administrator of the deceased’s estate the Probate Court’s involvement
and cost would be minimal. The father agreed to be the Administrator and traveled to Georgia to
work with the Probate Court in his daughter’s county of residence.
While going through the daughter’s possessions a safe deposit box key was found. The first
question was “In what bank is the deposit box?”
After a few days of visiting banks, the proper bank was found in a small Georgia town about 15
All-in-all it took almost 3 years to finalize everything. If the daughter had the documents listed
above, many of the decisions would have been done before she died and the pressure on the
family she left behind would have been much less burdensome.